HELP MEET VS CONCUBINE

And YAH* God said, [It is] not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an HELP MEET for him. – Gen 2:18 KJV

There is an ongoing debate as to the difference between a wife and a concubine, however, that is a false equivalence. You see biblically concubines ARE wives. The correcty equivalent to be compared and discussed is between a help meet and a concubine, so a woman should ask herself if she is a help meet or a concubine because it is the woman who decides her role in her man’s life NOT the man.

The title of “wife” does not instantly make a woman a “help meet” to that man.

I have taught and explained this for years but sadly there is cognitive dissonance especially within women who have been taught and caught in the delusion of the worldwide babylonian system and structure that opposes the Kingdom of YAH God and convinces them that their babylonian upside down and back to front way of thinking is conducive to make them a wife that would be recognised by YAH God as a help meet, which he originally gifted to man.

You see YAH God made a “help meet” that man called “woman”

And Adam said, This [is] now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, BECAUSE she was taken out of Man. – Gen 2:23 KJV

In short a help meet is dedicated to her husabnd and his mission completely, a concubine has other responsibilities or priorities that take away her ability to be totally devoted to her husband and his God given work. Nevertheless whether a help meet or concubine both are recognised as wives. A help meet would secure an inheritance because she has helped the man to do and acquire whreas a concubine would get gifts because for whatever reason her time and dedication was split.

Below is a list of every verse that refers to women that are denoted as being concubines.

Gen 22:24 KJV – 24 And his concubine, whose name [was] Reumah, she bare also Tebah, and Gaham, and Thahash, and Maachah.
Gen 25:6 KJV – 6 But unto the sons of the concubines, which Abraham had, Abraham gave gifts, and sent them away from Isaac his son, while he yet lived, eastward, unto the east country.
Gen 35:22 KJV – 22 And it came to pass, when Israel dwelt in that land, that Reuben went and lay with Bilhah his father’s concubine: and Israel heard [it]. Now the sons of Jacob were twelve:
Gen 36:12 KJV – 12 And Timna was concubine to Eliphaz Esau’s son; and she bare to Eliphaz Amalek: these [were] the sons of Adah Esau’s wife.
Jdg 8:31 KJV – 31 And his concubine that [was] in Shechem, she also bare him a son, whose name he called Abimelech.
Jdg 19:1-2, 9-10, 24-25, 27, 29 KJV – 1 And it came to pass in those days, when [there was] no king in Israel, that there was a certain Levite sojourning on the side of mount Ephraim, who took to him a concubine out of Bethlehemjudah. 2 And his concubine played the whore against him, and went away from him unto her father’s house to Bethlehemjudah, and was there four whole months. … 9 And when the man rose up to depart, he, and his concubine, and his servant, his father in law, the damsel’s father, said unto him, Behold, now the day draweth toward evening, I pray you tarry all night: behold, the day groweth to an end, lodge here, that thine heart may be merry; and to morrow get you early on your way, that thou mayest go home. 10 But the man would not tarry that night, but he rose up and departed, and came over against Jebus, which [is] Jerusalem; and [there were] with him two asses saddled, his concubine also [was] with him. … 24 Behold, [here is] my daughter a maiden, and his concubine; them I will bring out now, and humble ye them, and do with them what seemeth good unto you: but unto this man do not so vile a thing. 25 But the men would not hearken to him: so the man took his concubine, and brought her forth unto them; and they knew her, and abused her all the night until the morning: and when the day began to spring, they let her go. … 27 And her lord rose up in the morning, and opened the doors of the house, and went out to go his way: and, behold, the woman his concubine was fallen down [at] the door of the house, and her hands [were] upon the threshold. … 29 And when he was come into his house, he took a knife, and laid hold on his concubine, and divided her, [together] with her bones, into twelve pieces, and sent her into all the coasts of Israel.
Jdg 20:4-6 KJV – 4 And the Levite, the husband of the woman that was slain, answered and said, I came into Gibeah that [belongeth] to Benjamin, I and my concubine, to lodge. 5 And the men of Gibeah rose against me, and beset the house round about upon me by night, [and] thought to have slain me: and my concubine have they forced, that she is dead. 6 And I took my concubine, and cut her in pieces, and sent her throughout all the country of the inheritance of Israel: for they have committed lewdness and folly in Israel.
2Sa 3:7 KJV – 7 And Saul had a concubine, whose name [was] Rizpah, the daughter of Aiah: and [Ishbosheth] said to Abner, Wherefore hast thou gone in unto my father’s concubine?
2Sa 5:13 KJV – 13 And David took [him] more concubines and wives out of Jerusalem, after he was come from Hebron: and there were yet sons and daughters born to David.
2Sa 15:16 KJV – 16 And the king went forth, and all his household after him. And the king left ten women, [which were] concubines, to keep the house.
2Sa 16:21-22 KJV – 21 And Ahithophel said unto Absalom, Go in unto thy father’s concubines, which he hath left to keep the house; and all Israel shall hear that thou art abhorred of thy father: then shall the hands of all that [are] with thee be strong. 22 So they spread Absalom a tent upon the top of the house; and Absalom went in unto his father’s concubines in the sight of all Israel.
2Sa 19:5 KJV – 5 And Joab came into the house to the king, and said, Thou hast shamed this day the faces of all thy servants, which this day have saved thy life, and the lives of thy sons and of thy daughters, and the lives of thy wives, and the lives of thy concubines;
2Sa 20:3 KJV – 3 And David came to his house at Jerusalem; and the king took the ten women [his] concubines, whom he had left to keep the house, and put them in ward, and fed them, but went not in unto them. So they were shut up unto the day of their death, living in widowhood.
2Sa 21:11 KJV – 11 And it was told David what Rizpah the daughter of Aiah, the concubine of Saul, had done.
1Ki 11:3 KJV – 3 And he had seven hundred wives, princesses, and three hundred concubines: and his wives turned away his heart.
1Ch 1:32 KJV – 32 Now the sons of Keturah, Abraham’s concubine: she bare Zimran, and Jokshan, and Medan, and Midian, and Ishbak, and Shuah. And the sons of Jokshan; Sheba, and Dedan.
1Ch 2:46, 48 KJV – 46 And Ephah, Caleb’s concubine, bare Haran, and Moza, and Gazez: and Haran begat Gazez. … 48 Maachah, Caleb’s concubine, bare Sheber, and Tirhanah.
1Ch 3:9 KJV – 9 [These were] all the sons of David, beside the sons of the concubines, and Tamar their sister.
1Ch 7:14 KJV – 14 The sons of Manasseh; Ashriel, whom she bare: ([but] his concubine the Aramitess bare Machir the father of Gilead:
2Ch 11:21 KJV – 21 And Rehoboam loved Maachah the daughter of Absalom above all his wives and his concubines: (for he took eighteen wives, and threescore concubines; and begat twenty and eight sons, and threescore daughters.)
Est 2:14 KJV – 14 In the evening she went, and on the morrow she returned into the second house of the women, to the custody of Shaashgaz, the king’s chamberlain, which kept the concubines: she came in unto the king no more, except the king delighted in her, and that she were called by name.
Sng 6:8-9 KJV – 8 There are threescore queens, and fourscore concubines, and virgins without number. 9 My dove, my undefiled is [but] one; she [is] the [only] one of her mother, she [is] the choice [one] of her that bare her. The daughters saw her, and blessed her; [yea], the queens and the concubines, and they praised her.
Dan 5:2-3, 23 KJV – 2 Belshazzar, whiles he tasted the wine, commanded to bring the golden and silver vessels which his father Nebuchadnezzar had taken out of the temple which [was] in Jerusalem; that the king, and his princes, his wives, and his concubines, might drink therein. 3 Then they brought the golden vessels that were taken out of the temple of the house of God which [was] at Jerusalem; and the king, and his princes, his wives, and his concubines, drank in them. … 23 But hast lifted up thyself against the Lord of heaven; and they have brought the vessels of his house before thee, and thou, and thy lords, thy wives, and thy concubines, have drunk wine in them; and thou hast praised the gods of silver, and gold, of brass, iron, wood, and stone, which see not, nor hear, nor know: and the God in whose hand thy breath [is], and whose [are] all thy ways, hast thou not glorified:

To further understand the difference between a help meet and a concubine the two prime examples to compare would be Eve and Sarah

Then he said to the woman, “I will sharpen the pain of your pregnancy, and in pain you will give birth. And your desire (will be contrary to your husbands desire) to control your husband, but he will rule over you.” – Gen 3:16

Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God. This is how the holy women of old made themselves beautiful. They put their trust in God and accepted the authority of their husbands. For instance, Sarah obeyed her husband, Abraham, and called him her master. You are her daughters when you do what is right without fear of what your husbands might do. – 1Pe 3:3-6 NLT

A great example of a woman who was taken as a concubine but became a help meet is the story of Esther 1-10, read it and may YAH give you revelation, insight and understanding as a woman.

As a man whether you have a wife/woman who is a concubine or a wife/woman who is a help meet our command is the same.

Eph 5:25-33  - 25 Husbands, love your wives (whether help meet or concubine), even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 28 So ought men to love their wives (whether help meet or concubine) as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife (whether help meet or concubine) loveth himself. 29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: 30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. 31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife (whether help meet or concubine), and they two shall be one flesh. 32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife (whether help meet or concubine) even as himself; and the wife (whether help meet or concubine) [see] that she reverence [her] husband.

Shalom Love and Blessings